"Deal Breakers"
I was listening to a radio chat this week and the subject was deal breakers, which in hip 2004 lingo means, "reasons why you didn't go back out with someone." For example, you are on your first big date with some really hunky guy, he comes to pick you up and he's wearing sweat pants or a leisure suit with socks and sandals. Deal Breaker. So this got me thinking...what were some of my deal breakers.
I was on I believe my third date with a certain guy when he declared to me in a pretty serious manner that he was going to be famous one day. And that he KNEW in his heart that this was to be his "destiny". The concept in my mind fell through the cracks as I thought about what he would actually be famous doing...umm I couldn't think of one thing that was honestly "famous" about him. And so now I was expected to react to this statement, to which I think I politely responded with something like, "um wow thats really neat, going to be famous and all." The bells rang, the umpire ran across the field and said, "GAME OVER."
Second situation, second date with a guy, went over to his parents house with him, his mom is doing something I guess he doesn't agree with. So he YELLS at his mom, rolls the eyes at her the whole I'm way too cool for my mom deal. Deal Breaker #1. I actually experienced two with him. The second deal breaker came in his apparent love of extremely Heavy Metal. No not steel plates but actual cd covers with vampires and girls tied up on the cover. And when asked how he even knew this existed he replied, "well I just got where I needed heavier and heavier music..." DEAL BREAKER!!
So anyways I was just wondering if anyone else had had these moments with possible love interests where they do or say something or wear something that in your mind seals the deal that there is no way I will ever be in a relationship with them again.... Just wondering...

All that you can't leave behind

This weekend I had some much needed girl talk. And I mean good girl talk! Girl talk is something so necessary to my sanity sometimes! I have friends that know me and then I have friends that KNOW me.
I never realized how good I had it in college until the past couple of months. College is the one place where you have girl friends around you 99% of the time. My freshman year I not only inherited a roommate but a hall full of girls, all of us ready to share our stories and become friends. Being an only child I embraced this situation because it was the first time in my life where I had "sisters". I could go to their rooms at anytime and we could talk/hangout for hours. Looking back I don't think I appreciated the significance it had on my life. Now I long sometimes just to be able to walk across the hall and there would be all my best friends in the whole world.
Needless to say, time and distance have kept me from being as close to some of those girls as I would like. The daily grind of life has been substituted for giving them a call and seeing what they are up to. I understand that if I want that closeness now it is going to have to be a constant priority because its not easy anymore to just walk across the hall and talk to them.
I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about the girl friends I have and how overwhelmingly blessed I have been to have them. Each one adds so much value and beauty to my life. I hope that I will continue to strive to be the friend that they need.